duck duck goose / by vanessa

I wanted to mention that I've been practicing this technique that has been eye-opening for me. So I do this thing whenever someone is really annoying or I'm feeling judgmental about someone (for illustration's sake, "other person" = Sally): I picture Sally and then I picture myself as Sally. This act of visualizing myself as the other person somehow softens ill feelings towards her and actually provides this sense of understanding. I've tried it several times now with remarkable results.

I started wondering how it's possible to dissolve grievances with such a simple exercise. I don't actually know the answer, so for now I'm gonna chalk this one up to good ole fashioned narcissism. Maybe since it's easier to see others' mistakes than our own, that when we turn the mirror around some kind of self-protection juju magic kicks in and we're tricked into extending to others leniency that we would normally reserve for ourselves? Or maybe I'm just weird (not entirely far-fetched). Either way, it's been fun to experiment with this, so thought I'd pass it on.


P.S. Happy Anniversary to me!!! I've been writing this blog for over 3 years now, and finally my readership is in the low tens at least. I mean, I think it is. I mean, I hope. Anyway, I started this thinking I could write, and now I'm sure I can't, but it IS home and all that good stuff. Blog on.


CORRECTION from my last post: I begrudgingly rescind calling Bret from Flight of the Conchords, hot. Okay, fine. He isn't *technically* hot, so much as he's just totally adorable. Are you happy with the distinction?